What We Experience Influences Our Perspectives Which Alter Our Reality
The reality we believe to be true is often generalized to the entire world. In other words, many people think that how they see the world is the same way everyone else sees it and that they always have the entire picture.
However, what we believe to be reality is not always based entirely on reality. What we believe to be real is based on many different factors.
These factors include:
- Past traumas
- How we grew up
- All of our experiences
- The people we have interacted with
- The type of relationships we have
- Our emotions
- Subconscious needs & ego needs
- Programmings, beliefs, habits, and values that we define our world around
These are many of the different factors that often influence how an individual views their reality. Therefore, everyone’s reality is slightly different.
Depending on what we have gone through and how we have managed to protect ourselves throughout our lives determines which factors are most influential in determining your reality.
To determine what we want to see as true, we take reality, the truth, and filter it through our factors. For example, say someone is telling you that they are having a hard time understanding what you mean. The way the receiver of this information may process it is by automatically assuming that the person meant they can’t understand them and want to leave the relationship. This is the reality the receiver created for themselves based on emotion, past experiences, trauma, etc.
While it is possible that the first person meant what the receiver assumed, it is also possible that they meant they wanted to understand them more.
This example shows how easy it is for us to take what we experience, filter it through our most influential factors, and then create a warped reality.
The thing is, what may be a warped reality to someone else is very real to the person whose reality it is. This is why it’s so important to try to understand where someone else is coming from because oftentimes their reactions to things are not directly about you or what has happened. Rather, the event has been filtered through our factors and then reacted upon based on how we internalize it.
How does this relate to perspective?
Well, our perspectives are formed around the factors I mentioned. Past experiences, especially traumas, have a big influence on our perspective of things.
For example, one person may hold the perspective that bees are terrible and frightening creatures while someone else sees them as gentle and just trying to live their best life. What makes the difference in this perspective? Experience and the emotions that we attach to those experiences.
It is possible that the first person was traumatized by being stung or even that they witnessed someone close to them being afraid of bees and they took on that perspective themselves. The second person may have never had a bad experience with bees and maybe even grew up in an environment where bees were admired.
The difference in this perspective is just a small example of how reality can be altered by what we experience and what we decide is true based on those experiences.
But if you do the same with a bigger example you can see how people really see things differently.
Say there is one person who views love as something that never lasts and is easily broken off. Say there is another person who sees love as having endless possibilities and with hard work can always work out. If these two individuals get into a relationship together it will be very challenging to stay together because one person doesn’t see it working out, even if it’s the best relationship they have ever had, and another who will do everything to try and stay together. This can cause major problems in the relationship because their perspective on how love works is different.
How do you think people can have completely different perspectives on love? I explained how it’s possible with the bees so try to see what you think the possible factors are that influence our perspective of love relationships.
The big picture
It’s impossible to always have the same perspectives as others. Even though it can make your realities very different (as you’ve seen), it doesn’t mean that it won’t work out or you can’t get along.
The key is being open to understanding where other people are coming from and making the effort to look at the whole picture, even the parts that aren’t being shown and that you don’t automatically pay attention to.
There is always more to the story than we build up in our heads. That doesn’t mean what you think is wrong but it means that what you think is not necessarily the same as everyone else. It also means it may not contain every detail of a situation or all the truth about what is happening.
Sometimes it’s necessary to open ourselves up to understanding other people’s perspectives and realities because it can help us create a more honest reality for ourselves.
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