Wait, You Think You’re a Failure??

Read this article to realize that you can never really fail if you find the lesson in each failure.

I get it, you put all your time, energy, and maybe money into doing something and it didn’t work out. Maybe you lost all your money or you feel you lost time you can’t get back. Maybe this was your 5th time trying something and it still didn’t work.

As a result, maybe you feel like a failure. Maybe you feel like it would be impossible to ever recover and succeed in your goals.

But let me ask you something. What did you do after your so-called failure? Did you try again or did you give up on it all?

If you tried something again you’re definitely not a failure.

This is because each time we fail at something there is an opportunity to learn and adjust our process to improve for future trials.

A perceived failure is really a lesson for success. And until you accept that statement you will continue to truly fail. Not because it didn’t work out but because you perceive a failure as being equivalent to doomsday or something that holds you back.

In reality, these “failures” free you from the actual things that are holding you back — limiting beliefs, mindset, expectations, perspective, etc. But it’s up to you to realize that and decide to make a change.

However, if you give up and feel you have nothing to gain from the experience then you have truly failed.

You failed because you missed the point of your failure. You see, failing doesn’t mean you are stupid or incapable it means you have more to learn and experience before you can succeed or achieve the outcome that is in your highest good.

When we fail it’s because we are missing a valuable step in our process not because we are unworthy of success (that is an excuse and a limiting belief!).

Sometimes that step is that we miss-calculated something or didn’t take into account a confounding variable.

But most of the time that missed step is mental. Mental in terms of how mindful, aware, and accepting you are of yourself and the process.

For instance, some important questions that can help you understand where you are mentally are:

What are your reasons for doing what you are doing? Are you forcing something? Are you putting an impossible deadline on yourself? Are you expecting perfection? Are you willing to go with the flow of your results while taking action? Are you present? Are you too focused on immediate results rather than the long-term outcome? Are you in the right headspace to make good decisions? What is your perspective? What are your limiting beliefs and are they your own?

It’s difficult to take into account all of these questions at once but if it doesn’t work out maybe it’s because you missed something — something that those questions consider.

But something you consider to be a failure is never a failure because there is always some valuable piece of information that can be learned in each one. Whether it be in terms of your mindset, a missed step, or both.

Like I said before, a perceived failure is really a lesson for success. The moment you decide to stop being a victim of what didn’t work out and figure out how to improve for the next time is the moment you succeed.

Plus, if you can find success in your failures, even if it’s small, you will be able to achieve your goals more easily and faster because you shift your focus from the negative to the positive.

Now, become more aware and ask yourself: what can I learn from my most recent failure? How can I take these lessons to improve for the next time?

And the next time you think you’ve failed remember that the only true failure is the failure to learn and improve.

❤️🌻 Thank you for reading!
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