Understand Your Deepest Pains
It’s not all bad.
Pain can be uncomfortable. Pain can be challenging. Pain can be scary. Pain can be frustrating. Pain can be upsetting. Pain can be hard. Pain can be uncertain. Pain can be miserable. Pain can be confusing. Pain can be unmotivating.
Pain can create a whole new type of energy in your being that brings down your perspective on the world around you.
Everyone experiences emotional pain at some point in their life. That pain may be from failing an important test or from a traumatic childhood.
Our pains may not come from the exact same experience but the pain we all feel is similar to the pain of others. What makes our pains similar? They all stem from a deeper event that burns your heart deeper than anything else you have experienced.
It may be hard to realize this because that event may be repressed far into your unconscious or it may seem insignificant on the outside.
The key to most of our pain is that one event that first comes to your mind. The event that stings a little when you think about it and brings up emotions you may not understand.
I won’t tell you how to fix this pain because the solution and the timing will be different for everyone. There is no one way that emotional pain can be released. But it can be. It is always possible to heal that pain and work on moving forward in your life to better the things you love. It is never too late.
As bad as pain feels, pain can also be positive. It can be beneficial. It can be healing. It can be insightful. It can be revealing. It can be loving.
Emotional pain is not something that any human being enjoys yet it is necessary for our personal and relational growth.
Pain works primarily in one way. It protects us from ever reliving the experiences that created the pain in the first place. As a result, we work to avoid that pain by behaving in the ways that are the least painful for us.
For example, if someone had no voice as a child they may try to make their voice more heard as an adult by dominating every conversation they are in. To avoid the pain they felt as a child, they behave in the opposite way that they felt pain during their initial trauma.
This is often an unconscious process and will only become conscious when pointed out to someone or after reading this.
The point is that pain is not just a negative emotion that we all feel. It drives our behavior, decisions, and perspectives on life.
When you see pain as a bad thing there is no room for new growth.
However, there is no denying how hard it is to feel pain. It paralyzes some people and drives others to crazy extremes. Pain is so difficult to endure and is one of the most hurtful emotions. It is felt so deeply that sometimes nothing else seems possible.
But I’m telling you right now that even though your deep deep pain is unbearable, it is not impossible to find good in it and heal.
The beauty of pain is that you can learn your most important lessons from it and take that into the world. Pain changes the game of life.
Sincerely,
Skylar Rae🌻❤️
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