The Power Of Letting Go
Learn to let go of what you can’t control.
If you want to feel more peace, hope, acceptance, trust, and happiness the key is to learn how to let go.
To let go means to no longer have an attachment to the outcome of an event or person that is out of your control. When you feel like you can’t let go it’s often a result of needing to feel like you have power in changing or fixing something. Or it’s about being afraid that letting go will then mean you have actually lost all control when that’s really all you want to feel.
However, when you let go the opposite truly takes place. Suddenly, you have more power and more control. Not necessarily over whatever you are letting go of but over your own life.
Choosing to let go is not a result of giving up but a result of a shift in your focus.
When we are pushing ourselves to fix things or grasping at anything to feel like we have some control in our life our focus is on trying to implement damage control, assuming there is damage to fix.
The issue with this focus is that oftentimes those things we try to implement damage control on are out of our control. Therefore, no matter what you do won’t create permanent fixes and you will just end up running yourself crazy trying to control everything.
This focus sets up an individual for failure. Failure to live, failure to be flexible, and failure to trust the process. With this focus, you will never be satisfied in life because you expect yourself to be able to control the uncontrollable. And the truth is there are a million things that will always be out of our control.
Letting go does not fix the urge to control these things. It does allow you to accept that you can only control what is in your control… your emotions, your actions, your reactions, your thoughts, your connections, your interactions, your boundaries, and much more.
So, in other words, letting go does not solve any problems or fix what you think is broken. What it does do is allow you to reevaluate the rules and expectations you hold for yourself instead of focusing on what you expect the outside world to look like.
One of the #1 reasons why people try to control and fix what is out of their control is because they have a set of rules and expectations about how things need to be in order for them to feel safe, secure, happy, and any other values they hold for their life.
Therefore, for some of you, letting go may involve re-evaluating your values and the rules you have surrounding how those values can be fulfilled. For example, if your rules for achieving love are that you will only feel loved when someone tells you they love you or when someone gives you a gift you are putting the control of your values in the hands of things you can’t control. This will surely make you feel like you can’t let go because if you do you may never receive that love.
However, if you can shift the rule for achieving love to things you can control such as when you give love to others it will be easier to let go because that is something you can control. And something that you can trust.
So you see, letting go is much more than what you may have thought before. It doesn’t have to be an act of suppression, disregard, ignorance, or a lack of understanding. It can be an act of freedom for you can finally let go of feeling like you have to control what is out of your control.
It doesn’t necessarily mean you are accepting of what is occurring but that you can let go of feeling like you have a hand in its fate.
How can you begin to let go?
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