Observing Your Need For Control
Why do you feel the need to move that one thing out of place?
Why do you have to make sure things are in the order you like them to be?
Why does it bother you that someone else’s stuff is left out?
Why do you feel uncomfortable when people do things you don’t like?
All of these come from a need to control what goes on in your outer world. If you get uncomfortable or tempted to “fix” the way someone else does something or how things are it’s because our sense of control may feel violated.
Of course, not everyone is like this. However, if you’re like me and have a tendency to feel the need to have things be the way you like them to be otherwise you’ll feel you’ve lost control of your environment this article is for you.
The truth is any time you feel that you have lost your grip on your outer world you have also lost your inner world.
What I mean by this is that when you have a strong need to keep your outer world controlled in the way you desire, your inner world is more prone to being ripped apart.
This is because when we have such a strong attachment to the need to keep things we can’t control in our control our inner stability will always rely on what is happening around us rather than within us.
In other words, with each thing you realize you can’t control the more your sense of inner peace will fall away.
The key to remaining peaceful within despite what is going on around you is to simply be an observer of the world, not a controlling participant.
By noticing the things that make you uncomfortable and that you desperately want to change you will also notice that these feelings may come from an urge to gain back control over your external environment.
However, if this consists of things that are impossible to control you have to find a way of detaching from it so that your inner world doesn’t get shaken up.
One way to do this is to remind yourself that external, physical ties don’t actually have to affect your inner ties. Rather, be an observer of what you wish you could control but detach from the need to control. The need and urgency are what drives our emotional response. If you can detach from that your inner world will benefit.
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