A 3 Step Process to Help You Work Through Blocks
In this article, I will be going over how you can work through blocks, understand what your emotions mean, and find out what is stopping you from reaching your goals.
The 3 step process I will go over can help you determine any cause of hesitation, help you work through fears & limiting beliefs, help you understand why you feel something, and remove blocks in the way of your goals.
In order to do all of this, we need to learn and understand why you have blocks. This often involves getting deeper into your subconscious for answers.
The answers stored in your subconscious are not difficult to reach if you are open to going through the process and being vulnerable. If you are unwilling to do that then it can be very difficult to connect to your subconscious needs and feelings.
Thankfully, anyone can follow this process to help you begin the process of getting closer to your subconscious. However, as simple as it is you still have to be open to uncovering any possibility of answers which some people are not.
If you are someone who is unwilling and completely not open to what I have talked about you can also use this process to work through your definitive closed-off-ness.
Chances are if you clicked on this article and are reading it there is a part of you that really wants to work through your blocks. You followed your gut instinct that was saying “read this, you need it!”
If you have thoughts of leaving now, it’s because something I said was true in some form and it triggered you so you’re thinking about withdrawing as a defense mechanism. Therefore, instead of listening to what you really want and need, you let your fears block you from pleasure.
Remember this can be worked through in the process I will be explaining. I am only mentioning this so you can become aware of it. It’s your decision how you decide to move forward from here.
Healing your soul starts from healing yourself.
One of the best ways that you can begin doing this is by asking yourself questions and breaking it down step by step.
When you ask yourself questions your subconscious will automatically begin searching for the answers to them in some way, shape, or form. In other words, we don’t like to not know the answer to things. We want an explanation even when we don’t realize it.
Therefore, when we ask ourselves questions that reach deeper into our soul we will always find our answers. That is if you are willing to sit and listen and be open to them. That’s where the needing to be open comes into play.
The 3 step process includes asking yourself only 3 simple questions.
- What is my main goal?
- What is stopping me from achieving my main goal?
- Where are my limiting emotions or beliefs coming from?
Each question takes you further and further into your soul, to the root of your block and of your challenge.
Every time we unable to reach a goal, we keep stopping ourselves from reaching it, or we don’t understand our emotions there is always a deeper reason for it. If you can process through it, you can overcome it.
So what are these 3 questions really asking?
1. What is my main goal?
What is the main goal you really want to achieve? It can be personal, financial, business, life, physical, mental, emotional, and so on.
If you have intense emotions clouding your understanding of what you want close your eyes and take a moment to visualize your life 10 years from now. How do you ideally want your challenge to resolve in a way that you have control over?
For example, say a child’s parent left and is now experiencing their family being broken up as a result. They want their parents to stay together but it’s becoming more difficult to see that as a possibility. Plus it’s out of the child’s control. Putting the emotions of their family as a whole aside and thinking ahead to the outcome that seems most likely at this point (divorce), they ask themselves if this really happens what is the most important thing for me to have that I can control… “a solid relationship with both parents.”
With this, they have found their goal is to focus on having a relationship with both their parents.
Maybe this question is enough for you. You found your goal and you are ready to work towards it. However, some people may begin to feel afraid to work towards their goal or uncertain if they can achieve it.
In this case, ask yourself…
2. What is stopping me from achieving my goal?
When you ask yourself this question you will begin to turn towards emotions or beliefs you have about your challenge that are holding you back from achieving your goal.
It could be a limiting belief, an attempt to avoid pain or a fear that if you try to accomplish your goal it will fail or you will do it wrong. Or maybe you feel so sad, angry, anxious, or insecure that your goal seems impossible to achieve so you don’t try.
If you’re unsure of what is stopping you, think of how you may feel if you took the first step to achieve your goal. If it makes you uncomfortable there’s something there.
Using the child example again, maybe they feel a lot of fear when they think of reaching out to the estranged parent. That fear blocks them from feeling safe to reach out. Or maybe they believe that the parent won’t want to fix their relationship. That’s a limiting belief.
Emotions and beliefs can be overwhelming enough to become a block if you experience them intense enough to create neuro associations of pain.
That is why just feeling afraid won’t create a block. There has to be something deeper that stops you from wanting to risk your beliefs being true or your emotions getting worse.
That’s when you ask…
3. Where are those emotions or beliefs coming from?
Usually fear of going for a goal comes up when someone associates a previous experience with an experience that is going on now. It brings up the same emotions and defense mechanisms that stop them from doing something different (blocking them from achieving goals).
In the child example, fear of fixing a relationship with their parent means running the risk that they might get hurt again, which is the same for any similar relationship. Becoming vulnerable is a gift but the risk often pushes people in the opposite direction.
Since the parent they mainly want to reconnect with left, they could be afraid their parent won’t change or that they will leave again and get hurt again. Therefore, the belief that the parent won’t hurt them again forms and could stop them from taking steps towards their goal.
So when you are asking yourself this question try to remember another time that you felt the same emotions you feel now or when you started to take on your belief.
Often, that will be the moment that what you are feeling now comes from. Why are you avoiding pain? Where are your limiting beliefs coming from?
You have all the answers you need to get yourself over the blocks you struggle with. 3 questions can be the difference between running away and taking action.
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